According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, only about one-third of businesses survive to their 10th year. We are thrilled here at Leading Tomorrow to have celebrated this milestone this past month! For the rest of this year, we will be highlighting key resources, providing new content, and having special offers to say “thank you” to those of you who have supported and worked with us over the past decade! This month, I reviewed my current Top-10 Picks for Next Gen Resources (see below). I hope you find these helpful! You can also listen to me discuss key takeaways from each resource in this month’s episode of The Leading Tomorrow podcast.

Marching Off the Map by Tim Elmore and Andrew McPeak
This book was published in 2017 but continues to be my go-to resource for teaching and training strategies for Gen Z & Gen Alpha. My favorite is the EPIC model — experiential, participatory, image-rich, and connected (relational). This is how young people today learn best!

Zconomy: How Gen Z Will Change the Future of Business—and What to Do About It by Jason Dorsey & Denise Villa
This is the best book I have found on understanding the workplace expectations and needs of Gen Z. Practical strategies are presented for every step of onboarding a Gen Z team member, from recruiting, to training, to retention.

The Culture Translator by Axis
This weekly email on what is trending in culture and the lives of teens is gold. For example, did you know that in teen slang “Bop” means a really good song, “Cheugy” means awkward or cringey, and “Finna” means you are going to do something? Axis also has a podcast and many other resources for anyone wanting to understand the music, movies, shows and social media trends impacting today’s youth.

Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place by Andy Crouch and Amy Crouch
My favorite all-around resource on creating a family/home culture that helps manage technology in healthy ways. A great quote from the book states: “Technology is in its proper place only when we use it with intention and care. If there’s one thing I’ve discovered about technology, it’s that it doesn’t stay in its proper place on its own; much like my children’s toys and stuffed creatures and minor treasures, it finds its way underfoot all over the house and all over our lives. If we aren’t intentional and careful, we’ll end up with a quite extraordinary mess.” Another convicting quote: “An awful lot of children have been competing with their parents’ screens for attention their whole lives.”

Family Media Plan Tool by the American Academy of Pediatrics
This tool walks parents and other family members through a practical list of questions to consider in creating a media plan for the young people in our lives. I appreciate how the template generates good considerations for how to help all of us manage our devices.

The Anxious Generation: How the Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt
This one was just released in March of 2024 and is already creating some powerful dialogue regarding how childhood has changed, what young people need, and how adults need to be intentional and unrelenting in creating environments for the next gen that counter the mental health epidemic and related challenges.

Kids’ Brains and Screens: A ScreenStrong Student Course by Melanie Hempe
Finally, a practical resource for educating and equipping young people to understand the impact of screens on their developing brains and lives. While most resources on technology speak to adults, this curriculum is designed for middle school students and presents information in a fun and engaging way. ScreenStrong has other resources as well.

Generations: The Real Differences Between Gen Z, Millennials, Gen X, Boomers, and Silents - and What They Mean for America’s Future by Jean Twenge
Dr. Jean Twenge is one of the most noted researchers on generational trends. In this, her latest book, she highlights key factors that contribute not only to the perspectives and behaviors of the youngest generations, but the trends that have impacted all of the living adult generations today.

Touch the World Youth & Young Adult Mission Training and Trips
Committed to equipping the next generation to live on mission every day, everywhere, Touch the World has some of the best training materials and programs out there for engaging Gen Z in missions. They offer in-person and online training, as well as short-term trips, internships, and a gap year program.

Gen SeXYZ: Love, Sexuality and Youth by Jeff Grenell
In the opening chapter, Grenell states: “One of the cultural realities of the Millennial and Gen Z sets is that they are living in a real and historic sexual revolution. Maybe the most staggering society-shifting tsunami to ever hit the shores of youth.” He continues to unpack the sexual revolution occurring today and offers practical strategies for anyone mentoring the next generation.

It is often noted today that our society and especially younger generations lack GRIT. So, what is GRIT? GRIT is a combination of passion and perseverance. It’s not necessarily strength, but rather the ability to persist in the face of challenges and setbacks, to always move forward. Sometimes, there are other words that are used interchangeably, like resilience, but GRIT and resilience are quite different. Resilience is the idea of learning from something, whereas GRIT is about continuing to move forward, no matter what. 

GRIT is not something that we’re given, it’s not an intelligence that we have, It’s not a talent we’re born with. It’s a mindset and a skill set that must be cultivated; it’s something that must be grown.

GRIT is a predicator of success, more than just natural ability. GRIT helps make long-term success happen. Embracing failure is key to developing this type of perseverance. Younger generations often need encouragement to view failure as a steppingstone to improvement.

So, what are some indicators that young people in our lives need to develop GRIT? Here are a few indicators to consider:
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1. Is a challenge, or anything related to it, being avoided? Sometimes, if it looks hard, sounds hard, then we don’t even attempt it. Sometimes people have called Gen Z lazy. If anything, that’s the complete opposite. Often, they’re very calculated, they’ll look at a situation and assess it so much more than perhaps other generations have. As a result, they often choose to avoid challenges or potential failure. When we see this occurring, we can offer encouragement to step into a challenge or try something difficult. We can also provide support through the process.
2. Is a young person in your life quick to give up, quitting sports, jobs, or hobbies very quickly? When this happens, we can encourage them to finish what they start. It is helpful to provide a listening ear where they can process emotions, frustrations, and recognize what can be learned through this situation. Asking good questions that help them reflect goes much further than just telling them what we think they need to understand.
3. Is there a lack of passion or interest in activities? We really want young people to explore many different things as early as possible to get them interested in different aspects of life. A lack of passion might be a warning sign that our kids need to develop GRIT. 

​Often, we can be prone to “rescue” young people around us from challenges or difficulties. We want to minimize their stress and struggle. However, offering consistent encouragement and support as they persist in working through challenges is a powerful gift that helps equip them to be successful.

Below is a list of resources with more insights and tips for encouraging GRIT in the young people we lead, teach, mentor and parent. The excerpt above is from my most recent podcast interview with James LaLonde. Check it out the full conversation on our website, or wherever you listen to podcasts.

A Growth Mindset for Teens by Sydney Sheppard
Executive Functioning Workbook for Teens
Grit for Kids by Lee David Daniels
Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth

Biblical understanding and engagement among today’s Gen Z college students is at a crisis point. In their 2018 Gen Z Report, Barna indicated that “the percentage of people whose beliefs qualify them for a biblical worldview declines in each successively younger generation: 10 percent of Boomers, 7 percent of Gen X and 6 percent of Millennials have a biblical worldview, compared to only 4 percent of Gen Z.” This correlates with the decline in biblical literacy. The American Bible Society reported in their 2023 State of the Bible Report that Generation Z is the least likely to turn to Scripture (30%), as compared to older generations.

Kinnaman and Matlock, in their book, Faith for Exiles, indicated that church attendance is also in decline among Gen Z. “Today, nearly two-thirds of all young adults who were once regular churchgoers have dropped out at one time or another (64%).” They explained that today’s society is “especially and insidiously faith repellent, making resilient faith tougher to grow today using the discipleship and teaching methods we relied on throughout the twentieth century.”

Elmore and McPeak, in their book, Marching Off the Map, indicated that students today are EPIC learners: Experiential, Participatory, Image Rich (visual), and Connected (relational). 

While students have always learned best through experience over lecture, this is especially true today in a world where young people are inundated with information. Furthermore, participation is key to metacognition and ownership in learning where students are constantly engaging and interacting in processes, conversations, and content curation. As students today live in a visually rich environment, where images and videos are a primary form of learning and information, effective education must include visual elements, as well as connection and collaboration with others, both mentors and peers. These principles, which are being applied in many educational settings, can be applied in biblical literacy and discipleship efforts as well.

Here are some key implications for those who seek to encourage biblical literacy in the next generation:

1. Gen Z does not learn the way previous generations learned. We must be willing to adapt methods of Bible training, spiritual formation, and discipleship in order to effectively engage this generation. 
2. Despite statistics on biblical illiteracy and disengagement from the church, Gen Z is open, and even desiring, to understand and engage with the Bible and spiritual truth. They need opportunities to learn and interact in ways that are meaningful and effective for them.
3. Gen Z can move toward a deeper understanding and appreciation for biblical truth when engaged in experiential, immersive, visual, and interactive ways.

We have an opportunity to inspire and encourage biblical literacy in the next generation by being willing to understand how they learn, engage, and communicate; to discern how God is preparing them to engage and serve in the culture and context in which they live; and to adapt our teaching and discipleship methods for twenty-first century learners. 

For more on this topic, check out this month's episode of The Leading Tomorrow Podcast. 

Much has been written about the increased mental health concerns facing Gen Z and Gen Alpha.  In addition, as I talk to employers and educators, I often hear how many young people today lack  the problem solving and critical thinking skills we saw in older generations at the same age. As we consider ways to support the health and growth of young people around us, we often overlook some of the best tools and opportunities at our disposal: fun and free play.
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Neil Postman wrote, “It is not conceivable that our culture will forget that it needs children; but it is halfway toward forgetting that children need childhood. Tim Elmore, in his book Marching Off the Map wrote that childhood as we have known it historically is disappearing, and that a strange paradox is emerging in young people as a result. We are witnessing the extinction of childlikeness and the extension of childishness.

The reality is that free, unstructured play builds skills and maturity. When young people can play without an adult to dictate every action and guideline, and provide every resource, they have to start relying on their own abilities to problem solve, find solutions, resolve conflict, and exercise creativity. Furthermore, when they achieve something on their own, whether it is building a fort, designing a new game, writing a song for fun, or creating a small business idea, the resulting sense of fulfillment produces intrinsic motivation that helps them overcome apathy.  When they encounter a complication and are able to overcome it, using their own skills and ideas, they gain confidence and resilience to face the next obstacle.

Fun activities that have no predetermined purpose allow young people to just explore, problem solve, and test their skills and ideas. Free play can also help decrease stress and anxiety by giving them time to just think and be. One of the best gifts we can give young people around us this summer is to model what it looks like to disconnect from our devices and step away from our structured task list and just have fun. Invite them to join you, or give them opportunities to do so themselves. If this is a skill they have never developed, they may need some help getting started, but it will be a skill they can benefit from the rest of their lives.

For more on free play, check out this article, or listen to the most recent episode of The Leading Tomorrow Podcast.

Bradberry and Greaves, in their great little book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0 said the following:

     Of all the people we’ve studied at work, we have
     found that 90 percent of high performers are also 
     high in EQ [emotional intelligence]. On the flip
     side, just 20 percent of low performers are high
     in EQ.  People who develop their EQ tend to be
     successful on the job… [and] make more money--
     an average of $29,000 more per year than people
     with low EQs. The link between EQ and earnings is
     so direct that every point increase in EQ adds
     $1,300 to an annual salary.

While emotional intelligence--which includes skills like self-awareness, empathy, and relationship management--is emerging as critically important for leaders today, given the prevalence of technology, many young people are lacking in these skills. As we head into graduation season, many high school seniors and graduating college students are facing new challenges and opportunities which will require increased emotional intelligence. As leaders, teachers, parents, and mentors, we can encourage them to grow in these important skills that will benefit them for the rest of their lives. Here are a few ideas for helping the graduate in your life:

• Schedule a breakfast or coffee date and just talk about the things that feel overwhelming to the student right now. Ask good open-ended questions. Listen actively. Help them identify strategies or determine goals that will help them thrive through the upcoming transitions in their lives.
• Give them a resource that will help them grow in their self-awareness. Two of my favorite graduation gifts are Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and Clifton Strengths for Students. Both books have self-assessments that are great for Gen Z. Offer to meet with them to discuss their assessment after they have completed it.
• Consider gifting the graduate in your life a coaching session. I enjoy using the IPSAT (Identity Profile Self Awareness Tool) when coaching college students, but there are many options available.

​For more on students and emotional intelligence, check out this month’s episode of The Leading Tomorrow Podcast, where I chat with Gen Z high school graduate, Ariana Chaparro, about self-awareness and self-leadership.

The National Student Clearinghouse released their latest college enrollment numbers on October 15, 2020. They are showing that a month or so into the fall 2020 semester, undergraduate enrollment is running 4% below last year’s numbers. “Most strikingly, freshman students are by far the biggest decline of any group from last year, with a decrease of 16.1% nationally and a 22.7% drop at community colleges in particular. First-time students account for 69% of the total drop in undergraduate enrollment.”

It is not surprising that many undergraduate students may be putting their college plans on hold amid uncertain times. This means a lot of students who might otherwise be in college are doing something else right now. I couldn’t help but wonder what this season looks like for those who are waiting to reengage their college plans. While mental health risks for college students were high prior to the pandemic, we are now seeing an increase in depression rates for college students since the beginning of the pandemic. It is critical for students today to have support and encouragement in this season as they make decisions that will allow them to thrive amid the uncertainty.

If you know a college-aged student who has put their plans on hold, or who is reconsidering their plans, here are a few ways to encourage them:

• Ask them how they are doing. Actively listen. Let them know you are available, and you care about them. Follow up and check in regularly with them so they know they are not alone.
• Help them brainstorm other opportunities that will allow them to learn, develop new skills, and grow in this season. Is there an activity they have wanted to try but haven’t had the time? Maybe there is a skill they can practice and develop in this season. Encourage them in creating a plan to do this.
• Be a voice of hope and belief in uncertain times. Share helpful perspective from your own experiences. Affirm the skills and gifts you see in their lives. Articulate how you see them contributing now and in the future in positive ways in their families, communities, and the world.

During two decades of teaching in both K-12 and college contexts, I have had to adapt a lot of my teaching strategies to the many changes we are seeing in technology and students today. I have taught online courses for several different schools and developed a deep appreciation for the opportunities that exist in virtual classrooms. I believe virtual learning can provide opportunities that are unique to the online setting. As you engage students online, here are a few keys that I find essential to effective online education:   
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Key 1: Allow for Choice
When we have some choice in a situation, we tend to feel more motivated. As a result, I often give options for assignments. For example, sometimes students can choose between participating in a written online forum discussion (introverts tend to prefer this!) or a live virtual discussion (verbal processors love this!). On some activities, I allow submissions to be either written or a recorded video. They can often choose between a paper or a project. I also like to give some freedom, when possible, for students to choose topics or applications to explore in course assignments.

Key 2: Encourage Student Ownership
Sometimes students prefer that instructors do the hard work of teaching and providing feedback but engaging them in these processes ensures better learning. I like using peer reviews, student-led presentations, and group activities to maximize student ownership in learning.

Key 3: Get Feedback!
The greatest contribution to my learning as an online educator has been student feedback. I do at least one mid-course feedback survey/form with open-ended questions, in addition to final course evaluations, in every class I am teaching. I ask the following: what is working, what is not, what would improve your learning experience? I immediately respond to areas of concern and make changes to the course based on helpful student input. Students value that I listen to them and care about their learning experience.

Key 4: Learn from Colleagues
I have found solutions to so many of my challenges in online teaching by connecting with and learning from colleagues. I also regularly take courses or watch webinars that help me learn new tools and methods. It can be easy to get into a routine, so adding some new tech tools regularly helps keep our online teaching sharp!

I hope you find these tips helpful and encouraging as you engage students in online learning! For more on this topic, check out the most recent episodes of The Leading Tomorrow podcast.

Research continues to link the overuse of technology to depression, attention issues, and poor social skills.  Many parents and grandparents I talk to feel overwhelmed by the powerful influence of technology in their families and homes.  Technology, if not managed, can impair our family's wellbeing.  One of our best defenses against devices controlling our time and relationships is to develop a culture in our homes that encourages healthy technology use.  So, how do we go about inspiring a tech-smart family?  Here are a few strategies and resources:   So, how do we go about inspiring a tech-smart family? Here are a few strategies and resources:  

• Create a family plan. This will look different depending on the personality and age of your kids and the needs of your family. In your plan, delineate when and how technology can be used. For example, at our house devices have accountability software and are not allowed in bedrooms. Everyone follows the plan, including mom and dad. Because our kids are young, they are not allowed to use devices without adult supervision, and they are limited to an average of an hour of screen time a day. The American Academy of Pediatrics is one resource that provides recommended time limits for different ages and has a family plan tool that can help you think through what is most important for your family. Common Sense Media also provides a wealth of resources for parents and teens to consider as you develop a family plan, including reviews of apps, tips for online safety and privacy, and screen time recommendations.   
• Make space for engagement. In his book, The Tech-Wise Family, Andy Crouch provides a challenge regarding the space in our homes and what it encourages and communicates. He says, “the best things to put in the center of our homes are engaging things – things that require attention, reward skill, and draw us together the way the hearth once did.”  He shares how in his home they have created a space for music, including instruments that draw their family together to play and sing. In our home, we have two spaces with maps, posters and whiteboards on the walls and games on the shelves that encourage us to talk, learn, explore and play together. Crouch challenges parents to “find the room where your family spends the most time and ruthlessly eliminate the things that ask little of you and develop little in you.” Instead, fill it with things that bring you together and foster conversation and growth. 
• Establish customs that create culture. Because of the addictive nature of our devices today, we must be intentional to create opportunities that facilitate memories and conversation and provide a foundation for strong relationships in our families. Otherwise, we will likely find ourselves together at dinner or on vacation, staring at our devices. In our family, we have found a few customs that have proven fun and constructive. Because of our work schedule, breakfast is our family meal. We have a shelf in our kitchen with books. While we eat, one of us reads something and we discuss it. Not only does this encourage good conversation, but also meaningful learning together. Our kids eagerly ask for a “story” when we sit down in the mornings. My speaking schedule results in our family covering about 8000 miles a year in our trusty minivan. So many hours in the car can prove tedious, but we have created a habit of keeping the first half of any trip screen free. This allows for reading, drawing, games, discussions regarding the places we pass, and the occasional sibling squabble to practice conflict resolution! We regularly visit state parks and museums along the way. Hiking and exploring together create shared memories and facilitate lively, device-free conversation. We also have the shared goal of visiting every NC state park and historic site before the kids leave for college. What does your family enjoy doing together? What are some fun customs you have or can create to build strong family relationships in this season of life?  

A healthy family culture is one of the best ways for kids to learn positive habits regarding technology use. It also helps them develop good relational skills, which contribute to confidence, happiness, and success. As parents, grandparents, caregivers and mentors, intentionality in our home and relationships is powerful as we model healthy life skills and teach them to our kids!   ​

Book Jolene to speak to your church, school, or community group on Tech-Smart Parenting or visit the Leading Tomorrow podcast  for more on this and related topics!  

Tim Elmore, in his book Generation iY, explains the fact that most young people today learn and interact through “uploading.” They engage in forums and activities via devices where they can share opinions, perspectives and preferences, and receive instant feedback. Nonetheless, many of our formal leadership and learning environments continue to implement “downloading” methods to engage, lead and teach those in our care. We talk at people, give orders or directions, and provide important information without stopping to receive input, give explanations or engage in discussion.     
 
Once upon a time, not that long ago, many lived by the motto that children were to be seen and not heard. That philosophy was applied to many in "follower" positions such as students, soldiers or employees. While this perhaps made life easier for those parenting, teaching, or managing, it could result in decisions or information based on limited understanding. The ideas and desires of those in leadership roles were "downloaded" to the followers and silent obedience was often expected. Some leaders still adhere to this top-down approach to managing followers.
 
Since childhood, Millennials and Generation Z have been taught and encouraged to be seen and heard! They are accustomed to having input…whether it is choosing a favorite game on their device, posting a response on social media, or texting their vote to a favorite television show, they are uploading generations. If we want young members to feel engaged and committed to our teams, whether in the office, pew or classroom, we must allow participation, discussion, and “uploading.”
 
While there are some negative consequences from this need to be heard, there are also many benefits. Active participation can lead to increased creativity, understanding of diverse perspectives, and greater engagement and ownership. Regardless of the pros and cons, leaders today must understand that those they lead or teach are used to "uploading."  Failure to provide opportunities for them to do so limits our ability to gain respect and earn the right to speak constructively into the lives of those around us.  At times we need to address the negative aspects of our "uploading" culture.  First, however, we must prove we are leaders who intentionally listen to those we lead. 

Ideas for "uploading" as a leader:
*Ask open-ended questions regularly; allow the time and space to actively listen and ask follow up questions as we learn from those on our teams. 
*Be sure that training and learning experiences incorporate as much discussion and active participation (uploading) as lecture and instruction (downloading).
*Request ideas, and when possible and appropriate, allow students or employees to pursue a course of action they value (even if it seems a bit problematic). Encouragingly help them navigate the challenges or consequences of the decision/action. This can help teach effective decision making, critical thinking and problem solving, equipping future leaders with needed understanding and skills. 
*After listening to the input of others, there will be times when as a leader you need to make an unpopular or hard decision. When this occurs, explain your reasons, and honestly engage and answer questions. This becomes a mentoring opportunity and demonstrates transparency.   ​